Inner Dialogue

I respond very well to honest, articulate, and intelligent individuals.
I don't respond well to people who micro-manage, intimidate, and don't slow down enough to listen.

I respond well to leadership styles that facilitate, encourage, and trust.
I don't respond well to leadership styles that are top-down, belittling, and condescending.

I respond well to the rational.
I don't respond well to the irrational.

My present challenge is how to work with someone who has a style that plays to all of the things I don't work well with because everything that is coming from this person engages my fight or flight response. I am sincerely trying to look at my own words and actions and be tempered in my responses, but I am finding that even that is having no effect. A single message the other day resulted in a firestorm of frantic responses, over 10 of them, from this person. My instinct is to just withdraw into my bunker and let the bullets fly overhead because I have a real sense, based on experience, that it doesn't matter what I say anyhow, this person has their own agenda. I'm not sure if that will work, but tossing back my own rounds won't solve anything either. What they don't seem to realize is that the mental dissonance they are causing is defeating the exact goal they are trying to accomplish. What to do?