Inner Dialogue

"One of God's main purposes in ordaining marriage and the home is not primarily for pleasure, as is ordinarily supposed, but to decentralize the self, to teach agape love. The stresses of marriage and the home are designed to produce brokenness, to wean one from self centeredness, and to produce the graces of sacrificial love and gentleness. Because so few people understand the nature and purpose of marriage, when unexpected stresses and strains develop they are tempted to feel they have made a mistake and perhaps have married the wrong person……If the couple can comprehend that neither life nor marriage is made primarily for pleasure, but for learning sacrificial love, they may not waste their sorrows.

~ Paul Billheimer, Don't Waste Your Sorrows